When I broke up with my wife the last thing I thought would happen was for me to get my wife back. Sometimes strange things happen.
I was lost, literally. I just didn’t know what to do. After what seemed like an eternity looking for info on how to get over my ex, I accidentally came across a book on how to get her back.
I thought this was too good to be true, I rarely fall for this kind of stuff. But I decided to test it out, for the sake of a measly forty bucks.
There was an extra bonus with the book that explored the psychology of how our minds work every day, and how you can get people to do things with little suggestions.
This part of the package spoke out loud to me. I recognised these methods straight away. Psychological triggers I had used on my children to get them to do things they didn’t want to.
Without even realising it, we might use reverse psychology in our everyday lives. Imagine trying to get a lazy flatmate to go play football.
They aren’t very keen on the idea so you hit them with the old “it’s ok if you aren’t physically up to it” line. They come straight back with a proud “of course I am, when do we start”.
We played the psychology card here. Using their own pride as the tool against them. These same tricks can be used to get your ex back on track.
I got my head together and left my ex a voice message. I planted the seed of curiosity in the message as curiosity plays a huge part in our lives. Marry curiosity with a bit of psychology and we’re talking magic powers!
My ex called me back the next day. But more importantly she called me to ask about me, how I was, what I was doing. She didn’t consciously realise I’d planted the seed in the message the day before.
The day I left her the message I didn’t ask her to get back to me, but I was pretty confident she would. And I was right on that point.
After she called it was easy going to get back together. I wasn’t going to let her in on the secret that it was me who’d made that first move. I let her think it was her.
There’s me starting out with a view to getting over her. A complete reversal had me looking to get my ex back. And it worked pretty good for me.
Although if it hadn’t had worked out for me I would have gotten the refund on the book and gone to a game somewhere!
